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Live Call with Baba Ali…Coming Soon

Assalamu alaikum

Quick heads up.  Alhamdulillah we’ve gotten amazing feedback from the launch of the Muslim Marriage Movement and clearly there is lots of work to do.  I wanted to give you a heads up to look out for a special LIVE call Baba Ali that we will be doing very soon in shaa Allah. (more…)

HOD Offline Singles Events 2016!

Half Our Deen Offline 2016 is here. New events, new cities, plenty of matches

Visit If you would like an event run in your state please do email us on

HalfOurDeen events are different. They aren’t like the typical Muslim-speed-dating events that herd all of the attendees into a room and force them to fend for themselves. You know there is supposed to be some type of structure and that your chance of finding an agreeable potential spouse is higher. You have heard the statistics and seen how many matches were made at every event and on our website. But knowing all of this doesn’t help to settle your stomach, as your sweaty palm turns the knob leading to what could be the best marriage event you ever attend or just another bust. (more…)

Half Our Deen now works on your phone!

Assalammu’ Alaikum,

Recently, we have made some improvements to Half Our Deen.  The new design is now mobile friendly, which means you can use it via your phone or tablet.  Although we have made some improvements to the site, we still have a lot more to do in the upcoming weeks.  We thank you for your patience.

Education vs. Marriage

A question that often arises on the road to marriage is, “Should I complete my education first or get married first?” Everyone has an opinion on the matter and there is not a universal answer to it as every person, and situation, is different. However, there are a few points to take into consideration when you are contemplating this question.

1) While intellectual compatibility is important, that does not necessarily translate to having the same number of degrees or years of study. Just because a person has had more (or less) schooling than you does not necessarily mean that you are not intellectually compatible. Instead of writing someone off because they don’t have the right level of education speak to them and see if perhaps you are both on the same intellectual level.

2) Getting married does not necessarily mean the end of your education. A lot of singles (particularly sisters) feel they have to make a choice between either marriage or education. While, it is true, that getting married does add more responsibility to your plate it can also motivate you to take your studies more seriously and complete them faster. If you are interested in getting married but aren’t sure how education will fit into your married life, discuss it with your potential other half. You can even outline a plan together beforehand.

3) It is possible to afford both marriage and education. Pursuing higher education can actually be more affordable after marriage. There is more financial aid available to married couples than singles. Financial aid is also calculated just on the income of you and your spouse, without your parents, so you are more likely to qualify. You will also learn to be more responsible with your money as you have a spouse and a future together to look forward to.

There is no doubt that education plays an important role in our lives. It is a means of growing for us as people as well as way to improve our economic status. Education should be pursued however we should also keep in mind that learning occurs not only in school but throughout our lives. Pursuing higher education should not come at the expense of other things we want in life. Instead, we should find a way to reconcile between the things that matter to us and approach it from a practical angle. We should also take the time to learn about other people instead of dismissing them based on their level of schooling.

Eid Mubarak 2013!

Eid Mubaarak!

We pray that you had a blessed and fulfilling Ramadan and a joyful Eid.

Ramadan was a month of mercy and a time to grow closer to Allah (swt). It was also an excellent time to continue making duaa to find your other half. During Ramadan there are many times when supplications are accepted so hopefully you took full advantage of them! Now that the month of supplication has concluded it is time to refocus on your search for your other half.

We have been busy here at rolling out a few new updates over the past month.  One of the new features we now have is that everyone is required to fully fill out their profile. Many members have complained in the past that users would sign up and keep their profile rather bare. This made it difficult for the other members to learn more about them. As such, anyone who has not filled out their profile will be prompted to do so prior to accessing the rest of the site. All surveys must be completed and a minimum of 300 characters must be in both the “About Me” and “About My Spouse” fields.  It is our hope that this update will allow all users a fair insight into each other.

Additionally, we are working on developing new features for the site that will be added in the coming months. One of these features is the much sought after private photos! Insha Allah, once this feature is added users will have the ability to hide their photos and share certain only with people they are interested in.

We have also been busy running a few offline events in the past couple of months. Our last three events were held on the East Coast, in Chicago, Boston, and New York. These events had a combined total of 180 attendees resulting in 54 matches! We are beyond excited to have helped more than 100 people find their potential other half.

InshaAllah, we will be having more offline events all over the country in the coming months. The upcoming events will be held in:
New York – November 2013. Sign Up Here
Virginia – TBD
Atlanta – November 23 2013. Sign Up Here
Los Angeles – November 2013 (Thanksgiving Weekend). Sign Up Here
Chicago – December 2013 (Xmas Weekend).  Sign Up Here

For more information on these events, and others, be sure to visit

May this Ramadan have been a fruitful one for you and your family and a means of bringing you closer to finding your other half. May you spend next Eid with the spouse of your dreams.  Aaameen

Moving Forward :)

Alhamdulillah Half Our Deen is reaching our 3 year anniversary on July 10th InshAllah.  Although we have over 500+ success stories and 2500+ Active Members, we are constantly working on making the site better.   One of those improvements is making the overall member experience better by providing more content within member profiles. In our last update we focused more on profiles and have set a minimum profile limit so members can have more complete profiles. As you can imagine, it is very hard to learn about someone when the only content on their profile is “will tell you later” or “message me”.  Sometimes you need to read about the person and the more descriptive the profile, the more a person can learn about you. Research has shown that full and comprehensive profiles have a higher chance of being messaged and/or liked. Since we are all here for the same intention, marriage, we encourage our members to post real photos of themselves. While mosques, flowers and sunsets are something to marvel at, nothing can set the tone better than a presentable photo of yourself. We assure you that your privacy is extremely important to us and we take the right precautions to make sure it stays that way, InshAllah.
We appreciate your patience and support
Baba Ali

Getting Overly Attached

The search for your other half is an extremely personal journey filled with ups, downs, and a lot of hard choices. Making these tough choices can be hard even when you are able to keep an objective mind. Once you allow yourself to think with your heart instead of head it becomes harder to distinguish between the right and wrong decisions.

Islam has set clear guidelines for how to interact with the opposite gender and even how to approach them when you are interested in them for marriage. While these guidelines may seem stringent they are there to protect you from the inevitable heartache that accompanies the search for a partner as well as to help keep you objective when deciding who you would like to spend the rest of your life with.

One of the mistakes that a lot of people make is not asking the hard questions first. They decide that they need to get to know the person first before they are comfortable asking some of their deal breaker questions.  The problem with this approach is that by the time you get to ask a make it or break it question you are already emotionally invested in the other person and find it much harder to move on, even once you have realized they are not the right fit for you.

In order to avoid this rough aspect of the spouse search here are a few guidelines to help you stay within the boundaries of Islam and avoid becoming overly attached before the time is right.

1)      When meeting with a potential spouse or exchanging correspondence make sure to have someone else privy to the conversation. It is less likely that the conversation will steer off topic and become more personal when you know someone else is also listening/reading it.

2)      Make a list of your deal breaker questions and ask them first. If there are certain aspects that you can’t budge on make sure to get them out of the way before you waste both of your times.  Encourage the other person to do the same.

3)      Keep your conversations to the point. There is no need to share all of your childhood memories and everything that happens during your day now. Save these amazing stories to tell your spouse later on. Not only will it keep you focused on the important matters now it will ensure that you have fodder for all the conversations you will have after you are married. And if the person turns out not to be right for you then you wouldn’t have shared the personal and cherished conversations with them—which can make it harder to move on.

The beginning of a relationship is an exciting time. It is easy to focus on how you feel, letting that guide your decisions, instead of thinking rationally about how you should conducting yourself. The important thing to remember is that one of the blessings of Islam is that only your spouse gets to share the special moments of a relationship with you. It’s up to you to ensure that happens by only investing emotionally once you have cleared out any doubts that this person is the right one for you.

Setting Expectations from the Start

Newlyweds in the early stages of falling in love often find themselves going above and beyond for their spouses. A wife may try to make elaborate meals and husband might return home each night with a surprise for her. While this is admirable and it can foster love between the spouses it is also impractical.

Throughout a marriage spouses should try their hardest to please each other and do nice things for one another. However, if they overextend themselves not only will they eventually burn out they will also leave the other spouse with expectations that are too high.  Instead, from the beginning of the relationship both spouses should talk over and set a precedence of how they view the rest of their lives together being.

If a wife would eventually like her husband to take on some household responsibilities, such as helping her with the vacuuming once a week, then she should let that be known from the start. Instead, most will happily take on all the household chores by themselves until they are tired of it at which point they will snap and state that the husband “never helps”. When the reality is in the beginning of the marriage when he offered to help they would turn him down and he got the impression that was not something he needed to contribute in.

The same applies to a husband, if he has certain expectations of his wife they should be established from the beginning. If these expectations are not discussed and acted on from the start it will be much harder to change them later. It is easier to create a habit than to change a habit.