Questions you should be asking your potential matches
June 14, 2012 by Bloggin Muslim
There are no right or wrong questions to ask when you are looking to get married. What it boils down to is what is important to you. What lifestyle would you like to lead with your spouse? What qualities in a spouse would bring out the best in you? And what things could you compromise on without compromising your happiness?
One of the unique features of Half Our Deen is that it allows you create your own questions instead of simply asking standard ones. This grants you the advantage of being able to ask about what really matters right at the start and receiving answers from potential matches on these matters before you spend hours getting to know them! Not only does this save you from wasting time it is also one of the ways that Half Our Deen keeps our system Islamic. That way, the only time you need to begin communication with someone is when you are serious about the chances of marriage and both believe that your views of life match up!
In order to use this feature efficiently make sure to spend some time thinking about 1) What matters to you, and 2) How your spouse will fit into these points. So for example, if you are willing to relocate for your spouse but it is still important for you to maintain strong ties with friends and family back home you could ask, “If I relocate to your area how often would we take trips to visit my family?” That way you know ahead of time what to expect.
Even questions that might not seem important are worth asking. If you’re an avid foodie who enjoys experimenting in the kitchen your best match might not be someone who is perfectly content with traditional foods and has no desire to change! So ask what their food preferences are. Or if they are more comfortable eating gluten free or organic. While these issues might seem insignificant compared larger ones such as “Would our children attend Islamic Schools, public schools, or be home schooled?”, if it’s important to you it’s still worth asking.