Questions you should be asking your potential matches

There are no right or wrong questions to ask when you are looking to get married. What it boils down to is what is important to you. What lifestyle would you like to lead with your spouse? What qualities in a spouse would bring out the best in you? And what things could you compromise on without compromising your happiness?

One of the unique features of Half Our Deen is that it allows you create your own questions instead of simply asking standard ones. This grants you the advantage of being able to ask about what really matters right at the start and receiving answers from potential matches on these matters before you spend hours getting to know them!  Not only does this save you from wasting time it is also one of the ways that Half Our Deen keeps our system Islamic. That way, the only time you need to begin communication with someone is when you are serious about the chances of marriage and both believe that your views of life match up!

In order to use this feature efficiently make sure to spend some time thinking about 1) What matters to you, and 2) How your spouse will fit into these points. So for example, if you are willing to relocate for your spouse but it is still important for you to maintain strong ties with friends and family back home you could ask,  “If I relocate to your area how often would we take trips to visit my family?” That way you know ahead of time what to expect.

Even questions that might not seem important are worth asking. If you’re an avid foodie who enjoys experimenting in the kitchen your best match might not be someone who is perfectly content with traditional foods and has no desire to change! So ask what their food preferences are. Or if they are more comfortable eating gluten free or organic. While these issues might seem insignificant compared larger ones such as “Would our children attend Islamic Schools, public schools, or be home schooled?”, if it’s important to you it’s still worth asking.


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  1. fatuma

    MashaAllah you seem like a humble and kind sister may Allah make a way out for you and evefyone never lose hope on Allah and be patient until matters calm then gradualy discuss with your parent if you feel comfortable and in the meanwhile make sure to limit contact with him occupy yourself in good deeds as much as you can wether helping and soendibg in charity, repair a person broken heart and Allah will repair yours, and most of all pray and seek Allah’s help and assistance in all matters, may Allah grant you to him if he knows he will be good for you the hereafter Allah will never leave you may Allah safegaurd your heart may Allah help you dear sister fe aman Allah i love you for the sake of our creator Allah

  2. Em

    Salaam wa aleikom wa rahmatullahi wa barakatou, i don’t know if you could help me with my question. I feel lost and i don’t know what to do.. I met someone who ma sha Allaah is practising the deen as good as he can, but unfortunaly my family won’t accept him because he has no money and they think he only wants to marry me because i live in europa and he lives in africa (so he could get a chance at a better life at the expense of me). I tried everything, i even talked to my brothers about it but they won’t listen. I think they react this way because their hearts are not filled with our deen (they do everything Allaah swt has forbidden us). And now my brother made me choose between my family and the love of my life. Please help me i don’t know what to do i have astagfurallaah these horrible feelings towards my family because they won’t let me live my life (i know they want me to live a good life but i don’t want a lot of money.. please reach out to me.. yazak Allaahu khairan

  3. Rawan

    If your fiancé that you katben ktab with did bad action doing wrong things and your parents and everyone doesn’t want him anymore should you leave it to Allah swt and give him another chance if he said he is willing to change, I don’t know what to do I need some advice please

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