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Half Our Deen Offline Events Coming to a City Near You!

 

Here at Half Our Deen it is our goal to change the face of Muslim matchmaking both on and offline. We take a look at how things are normally done then come up with a way that makes it more efficient, private, and successful, with help of Allah (swt). Alhamdulilah, our past 4 offline events have been a great success and we are getting ready to launch a few more in the coming months. But before we get to that what is a Half Our Deen offline event?

A typical Muslim matchmaking get together is set up in the same was as speed dating. You speak to a person for 5 minutes, ask as many questions as you can, and then debate whether to give them your contact information or not. By the end of the night you might have a list of names and numbers of people you really don’t know much about. Not only that, the only way you can find out more about them is to get in touch with each and every one of them.

Half Our Deen offline turns these awkward matchmaking events into one that brings results, and here is how:

1- We keep our events private. Only people who have registered and paid are told the location of the event. You will have no drop ins or uninvited guests.

2- Everyone who registers is required to fill out a survey about themselves. This survey helps us place you with potential matches that are compatible.

3- One of the first activities we do at the event is a personality test. Everyone will get a sticker that shows what type they are to go on their name tag. This way you can learn about them without having to even say a word. There will also be more activities throughout the night to get to know each other better.

4- Everyone at the event is required to have a Half Our Deen offline profile. That way no personal information needs to be exchanged. If you find someone interesting simply jot down their profile and check it out when you get home. If you decide you don’t like them after all simply click the “I’d rather fast” button and you won’t have to hear from them again. However, if you are still interested you can take the next steps, answer their questions, ask them to answer yours, and see where it goes!

By the grace of Allah (swt), these factors have helped us bring together 1 marriage and 36 matches in our last 4 events. Add to that the over 320 matches made online in the past two years and it is no wonder why Half Our Deen is one of the top Muslim matchmaking sites.

InshaAllah over the coming months we plan on holding offline events in 5 cities:

  • Santa Clara, California – September 29 2012. Sign up here 
  • Southern California – November 2012 (Exact City/Date TBD). Sign up here 
  • Toronto, Canada – December 2012 (TBD). Sign up here 
  • New York City – February 2013. Sign up here 
  • London, England – TBD. Sign up here 

Spots will be limited so make sure to grab yours before they are gone. If you want to learn more about our offline events and what makes them unique be sure to check out this video:

Completing Your Profile Page on Half Our Deen

 

 

If you find yourself not receiving quite as many responses as you’d hoped to your profile on Half Our Deen or any other matchmaking website, the problem may be that your profile is not detailed enough. When people are seriously looking for marriage, they want to know as much as they can about you and the type of person you are looking for. Connections happen when people are open and honest, and although it may be difficult to put such important issues into words, it is necessary that you try. Here are a few points that you may want to consider:

1) Have you uploaded a photo(s) of yourself? This is the first thing a potential spouse sees, so be sure to include one.

2) Have you written a detailed description of yourself in the “About Me’ section? One or two lines is not enough for someone to decide if you’re suitable for them. Try writing a full paragraph or two. You may want to consider including:

* What part of the world you grew up in

* The particular sect/madhab you follow

* What kind of Muslim you see yourself as

* What the most important part of being Muslim is to you

* The kind of activities/hobbies you enjoy and why you enjoy them

* Why you want to get married

* Whether or not you are willing to relocate for a spouse

* If you have any children, what their ages are

* If you speak any other languages, what they are

3) Have you completed the “Who I’m looking for” section? This again needs to be detailed and well-thought out. You may want to consider including:

* Whether you are looking for a spouse who follows a particular sect/madhab

* The qualities are you looking for in a spouse- kindness is obviously a trait everyone is looking for, but do you want someone shy or outspoken?

* The activities you would like to do with your spouse such as skiing, mountain trekking, etc.

* If you hope your spouse will be willing to live with your parents

* Brothers- if you are looking for a wife in hijab, please state this.

4) On Half Our Deen there is a section titled “Questions that matter to Her/Him” where you get the chance to show any potential marriage partner what issues are important to you. For example, you could ask:

* When you are angry, how do you communicate?

* How often do you wake up for fajr?

* What is the most difficult part of Islam for you, and why?

* What is your biggest fear about marriage?

* Do you have friends from the opposite sex?

5) Have you completed all 4 compatibility tests?
Completing all tests will ensure you get matched with more people and also increase your compatibility with other members.

Take a good look at your profile page and consider whether or not it is lacking some vital information. If so, be sure to make it more detailed and interesting to anyone that may come across it. Most importantly, be patient and make dua for the right person to contact you.

May Allah be with you on your exciting journey!

Crazies on the Net!

 

So, you’ve put your profile up on a Muslim marriage website, and you wait in anticipation for a response while you browse other profiles. Suddenly, a message pops up.

“Salaamo alaikum, I like your profile. Let’s talk.”

Great! Allahu akbar! That’s what you’re here for right? Until the next email is- “I know you’re the one. Let’s get married.”

Wait- what? Um, that was a bit fast. We haven’t even discussed anything yet.

“I know, but I’ve read your profile and this is it. We will work.”

Does this really happen? Sadly, it does. I’ve heard of both brothers and sisters being emailed by someone of the opposite gender who has stated “I love you” or “Marry me” in the first email. One brother was approached by sister who stated that she just had to marry him, and not to worry about the wedding, she would pay for everything. In her second email.

People, let’s be clear- you can smell desperation. Even through the internet.

And then there’s the opposite. You’re getting to know someone and it looks like there is progress when they state “I don’t think I want to get married for another five years.”

Excuse me for stating the obvious but- why are you on a Muslim marriage website?! If you want to “date” for five years, then you’re in the wrong religion.

So, what’s my advice if you ever get one of the “marry me now” emails? Ignore the person and hopefully they’ll get the hint. And if they email you again, block them. This is not someone who is looking for a marriage partner. This is someone looking for a fast marriage. Or a visa. There’s a big difference between looking for the right person, and looking for any person.

If the person does not want to get married for another few years, then they are not serious and they are wasting both their time and yours. Politely end the emailing and move forward.

Above all, always do your istikharas, trust Allah’s guidance, and when you know something is wrong, step away.

Remember- Allah’s always watching!

Half Our Deen OFFLINE! 03.26.11 OC, CA.

Have you ever been to a “Halal” speed dating event?  In the past, Mosques or Muslim organizations would hold “Single Muslim Events” where single Muslims would show up with the hopes of finding someone suitable to marry.  The event would be basically a game of musical chairs, where each man would speak to each woman for a few minutes.  They basically took the idea of “speed dating” and tried to apply the structure to Muslims, but there is a reason why it doesn’t work for Muslims.  Speed dating is made for dating, where people need just surface level information about each other since the relationship is temporary.  Muslims are here to get married, not date, and being that their looking for life-long partners, they need more than 3 minutes to figure out if this person is “the one”. Seriously!

The copy & pasting of the “dating” structure is nothing new.  Most Muslim Matrimonial sites online borrow the structure of dating sites..  They ask you very basic questions like “what’s your eye color?”, or “what’s your hair color?”.  If you plan to spend the rest of your life with someone, you need to know more than just that.  You need to know about their values, morals, ethics, how they practice their Deen, how family oriented they are etc…That is why with HalfOurDeen.com, we started over and decided to develop our site completely different than the other sites.

Ever since the success of HalfOurDeen.com, I’ve been getting a lot of people asking me to do an Offline event because they want to meet people in the local area.  I told myself that if I was going to hold a Half Our Deen Offline event, it would have to be COMPLETELY different than all the past Single Events done by other Muslim organizations.  Similar to Half Our Deen online, the Offline version would have to be unique and take a COMPLETELY unique and innovative approach to a single Muslims event.
I have since developed a new way to hold such events and I hope to raise the bar once again, InshAllah.  The first ever Half Our Deen Offline event will be on March 26th, 2011,  in Orange County, CA.   If you’re interested, please visit hodoffline.com for more information. Seating is limited and registrants are filtered for compatibility purposes. Find out more on hodoffline.com

JazakAllah Khair and hope to see at the event, InshAllah

Patience in Marriage

A test of patience: Trying to get married…

I used the same approach to find a wife as I did to find a job.

For my job, I posted resumes on every job website I could access, knowing quite well that I’d have to be persistent and patient as I waited for my future employer to find me and hire me.

For my wife, I created profiles on as many Muslim matchmaking websites as possible. I figured I’d cover as many bases to increase my chance of finding my future wife – but at unforgiving subscription prices per-site. When I was in the process of developing HalfOurDeen.com, maintaining a low, affordable price for subscribers was a key aspect I vowed to maintain … without compromising all of the cutting-edge features that make HalfOurDeen.com so unique.

But just like my job search, I did not take down my matchmaking profile after a month of unsuccessful leads. I was patient and persistent, knowing quite well I could luck out and find my match in a week or in a year (although I was hoping for the former!). Keep in mind success in your pursuit of a compatible partner to help complete Half your Deen, is in the Hands of Allah (SWT). A heavy dose of dua, patience and consistent effort are vital ingredients to lead you to the blissful wedding day … although when the search is in progress it might seem unattainable.  Having kept this knowledge in mind, I purposely made HalfOurDeen.com the most affordable Muslim matchmaking website around. An annual subscription costs a paltry .16 cents per day, a small fee to help keep you out there searching for the most compatible partner to call your own.

The reality is that most people will not find their perfect match within 30 days so a $5 per month subscription fee was key to making this site as popular as it has become the past 2 months since the initial launch. We are excited and eager to report that we have received notification from several members who are already reporting a successful match with a fellow HalfOurDeen.com member! Although we did not anticipate such speedy results, we are excited for the couples to-be and pray the ball keeps rolling for all you singles on the search for the One that will help you build a life of happiness and obedience to Allah (SWT).

Keep the search and the faith, and remember: good things come to those who persevere and patiently pursue … HalfOurDeen.com is at your service to help you do just that.

1 MILLION views, on a private site?

When I told my friends that Half Our Deen was not going to have public searches, they were concerned if people would use it since all the other Muslim Matrimonial Sites allowed EVERYONE to see who is on their website.  I argued that privacy would be one of the key reasons many people would want to use Half Our Deen vs the other guys and Alhamdulillah, our recent stats speak louder than any words that I can type here.  Alhamdulillah within 10 weeks of launch, Half Our Deen has reached 1,000,000 page views!

Half Our Deen 100% privacy


The only people that should know you’re looking to get married are people who are also looking to get married.  Many years ago, when I had no choice but to use the current Muslim Marriage sites that you see out there today, my online profile was up for everyone and their mama to read.  I was already uncomfortable putting my profile online, but to have it public made me feel even more uneasy.  Imagine how bad it would look if your profile shows up on Google when someone searches for “single Muslim”.  Umm yeah, I pass!  That’s why I was very adamant on making Half Our Deen completely private, so people like you and I can be comfortable with our profile being online.  Just because you like romantic walks on the beach (after marriage of course), doesn’t mean the whole world needs to know. =)

For all those in doubt of people using a private Muslim Matchmaking site like Half Our Deen, well I hope the stat, 1 million page views in 10 weeks, makes you feel more comfortable. Alhamdulillah!